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In This Issue
Gender Affirming Sacred Intimacy
Masculinizing Top Surgery Grief & Pleasure Circle:
scar and heart care support
Gender Doulas: crowd sourcing
Recent Conversations: Erotic Grief & Access
Gender Affirming Sacred Intimacy
I just returned from a week long genderqueer neo-tantric teachers intensive and I'm lit on fire ya'll. I've been enjoying the energetics of breath play/work since I received my first ecstatic massage at the age of 20 and soon began exploring needles through BDSM (my first toy of choice after deciding I might in fact enjoy topping). Within a few years I doubled down on my breath practices and attended several weekend long Skydancing neo-tantric trainings (Westernized by French author Margot Anand).
These days, I invite clients into breath work but have been keenly aware that I haven't the depth of pedagogy to support those that struggle with the practices. Thus, I ended up in New York at the enchanting Easton Mountain retreat center, tears rolling down my cheeks as I was eye gazing with a queer elder after reflecting on our similar and different paths to erotic self and community care offerings.
If you are curious about the history of Tantric practices, I suggest the book Tantra illuminated. Know that I'm super present with the complexity of and have long been having these discussions, so reach out if you desire to chat with me about neo-tantric appropriation and appreciation. I've found our judgements are most always funnelled through a White, Western lens. The beauty and irony of that protectiveness is not lost to me and I stand within the stickiness of that protective care and nonchalant bemusement.
After so many years of energetic breath play/work with lovers, friends and strangers: I know that breath can be an anchor and a bridge into grieving and pain, joy and pleasure, decomposition and growth. What settled into my heart this past week was an acceptance that though I love my somatic and gender support work, I merely want to thread it through the care I am most called to share. I know my place in this lifetime is as a sacred intimate, in service to the mind-body-heart tending of scars -- whether they are gender and/or erotic based.
My own mind-body-heart has been tap, tap, tapping me on the shoulder and increasingly leading me towards more offerings that are ecstatic and pleasure-focused touch. Let me tell you, that's been fucking confusing because everytime I move closer to that knowing, I have less clients able to meet me where I am. I've been doing a lot of tending to my heartbreak about this. Without a doubt, I am made to support the unraveling of the harms of sexism in our bodies: and so I am making myself even more readily available to gender variant people that want to find their way to doing restorative and aligning resiliency care with their mind-body-heart, through a touch-based modality.
That long ass explanation to say: I'm no longer offering sessions that aren't primarily touch based. That's not a hard cut off for my current clients: we'll work together to transition our focus if you desire, and/or I will offer referrals. We'll do this at leisure between now and the end of the year, so there's no rush. The one exception is erotic coaching: I'm still be available for this offering but only online. I've found it's been a primary resource and pathway towards so many of you in receiving erotic bodywork.
Exercises in mindfully transitioning and building pleasure practices to support my own path have been deeply resourcing for me in the creation and sharing of somatic gendering! I'm excited to let that body of work now live in my soon to be publicly released Somatic Gendering online course (you'll see more about that in the next few weeks). I hope people will take that work and run with it!
Those lessons are now vibrantly woven into my scar care and bodywork offerings because that is what brings me pleasure and what I want to move towards in my practice: using touch to connect with the depths of what's possible in sacred intimacy. If you want to learn a bit more about my experience rethinking my focus, you can check out this YouTube video about the gender exploration exercise that cracked it open.
The offerings I'm now available for:
- Ecstatic Massage - gender affirming explorations that center your desires
- Erotic Deamouring - grieving harms and embracing possibilities with touchwork
- Scar Care & Pleasure (online & in-person) - embodied consent and manual scar therapy (for trauma scars as well as top and bottom surgeries)
- Erotic Coaching (online only) - an erotic sandbox for desire discoveries
- Intensives (solo or group) - 4 to 6 hours of erotic deep diving
As ever, if there's something different or particular you want to explore, book an exploratory call and let's chat about it! If nothing else, I can likely point you in the direction of someone able to assist <3
Masculinizing Top Surgery Grief & Pleasure Circle:
scar and heart care support
My work is primarily shared via word of mouth and via community.
If you are stoked to see this happening, please share on Instagram and Facebook.
I need at least 10 attendees to pull this off and it's an easy way for you to support this care work.
Thanks my loves!
FAQ
- Do I need to attend the virtual circles to get the online content? Nope: they are an added bonus. Just let me know! When you register, you'll get access to all of the exercises, scar care tips, prompts, meditations and more to go through and use at your leisure. Outside of this container, you'll need to schedule a session with me as I'm not yet making this content generally available.
- How much of this is about the scar care? Our hearts and bodies hold scars that aren't visible: this is the primary focus. For the physical scar: their care and tending is a part of, but not the main focus. So if you want to dig into those pieces, there's a lot to chew on. But if that's not your focus, you won't be bored by it.
- I want to change how I'm feeling but I'm not ready for pleasure. I'm so glad you know what you don't want. And, I am here to help you decide and orient towards what you do want. You get to define that with whatever word you desire: "pleasure" is a mere placeholder.
Open to all that identify with an ethos of gender queering and have already under gone this surgery type. This is an online course and live (Zoom) circle group: you'll have space for private reflections and practices, as well as shared community that will gather once a week for three weeks, October 3, 10, and 17th
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Gender Doulas: crowd sourcing
I'm seeking referrals for (BIPOC especially) practitioners of any modality who are centering somatics in some form + gender coaching or doula care. Who might you point me towards?! Drop me an email with a link to their work please. To start, I would like to point out these awesome humans:
Recent Conversations
I'm delighted to be chatting with some queer Somatic Sex Education peers about our work and where they thread through one another. Both of these lovely beings offer digital connection and sessions and you can learn a bit about them through these conversations.
What do you want to hear more of?
Who do you want me to chat with?
Queering Grief with Jess DeVries
The shape of our grief, stories of how these live with us, the importance and skills of grieving care work, plus.
Unlocking Erotic Access with Lauchie Murdoch
An exploration that celebrates each of our uniquely queer journey towards erotic access.
Sharing love and care,
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