Scar Care as Collective Care: Story, Resources, and Sessions


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The Offering Left Behind

Scar Care Resources | Chest Surgery

Free Community Classes Available

Scar Coaching Sessions

The Offering Left Behind

A Micro Narrative of Somatic Mythology

Low light, rosemary smolders in a dish, lotions and potions lined up like toys. Time remembers, space a hum of energy. My body is the altar. Scar care is not clinical here, it is smut lit with incense.

I drag fingers across the lines on my chest. At first they made me crawl out of my skin, nerves snapping down my shoulder, pulling through ribs and neck. For years it was ache and anger. I met it like I guide others through tightness: movement, patience, play. If anger rose, I let it throb. If sadness came, I let it moan.

And then: play. Feather tips. Scratchy rope. Honey drying slow as I tugged at the edges. What was once unbearable became delicious. Tickles that electrify fascia. Shivers like teeth on skin where you didn’t expect it. I never felt much in my breasts before. Now my scars open a new door: I touch my chest and feel my heart slam back against my palm. I rub the edges and feel my pelvis tilt with desire.

I didn’t cut them off for identity. I released them after a decade of back pain, after watching cancer thread my family tree, after wanting to button a shirt without darts, after being tired of my body read as public property. Yes, vanity. Yes, selfishness. Yes, survival. All of it.

I labored to love my breasts. Years spent uncoiling recoil, reclaiming them in bed, in mirrors, in leather bars. They were mine, curved altars I adorned. And then their season was done. I laid them down like an offering, and the scars that rose became thresholds, devotional altars.

Every massage is a re-storying. Quick rubs after a shower ground me, longer sessions on cannabis or acid stretch me into myth. Scars vibrating like bass strings, bellowing benedictions. Flesh undone, flesh remade, flesh made sacred by being touched.

These scars don’t erase. They mark a passage. They beckon. Split me open and drag me under. Tether me back when I drift away. Remind me I am not only alive: I am ecstatic, unfinished, and here to be remade over and again.


Scar Care as Collective Care

Resources to Share & Savour

Over the past few years, I’ve trained in Integrated Therapeutic Stretching & Scar Tissue Release & Massage with Marjorie Brook, an approach that blends multi-directional fascial work with deep attention to post-surgical and trauma-related scarring. I’ve also woven this knowledge through the lens of Somatic Sex Education, where body sovereignty, pleasure, and interoception guide the way we come home to ourselves.

Scar care isn’t only for practitioners. Most of the time, it doesn’t require medical intervention. It requires time, touch, breath, and attunement.

Not just to “heal”, but to soften. To feel. To re-inhabit space in the body that once closed itself to keep you safe.

That’s what this resource is for.

This is a living collection of chest surgery scar care resources, gathered from both community wisdom and healthcare practices. It’s a guide for post-surgical scar care following chest surgery of all kinds (gender-affirming, cancer-related, trauma, aesthetic, or postural). You’ll find weekly healing timelines, breath and touch suggestions, and tips for restoring fluidity, sensation, and choice.

Both hysterectomy and bottom surgery resources are coming soon. These will follow the same framework: body-led, pressure-free, pleasure-aware, and written with reverence.

Please share this widely— with trans friends, online groups, community spaces, or anyone you know who’s walking the path of chest surgery recovery.


Want A Free Class For Your Community?

If you know a community group or organization that would love a free online intro to scar care class, please forward this along or connect us by email. I’d be honored to share.

If I’m booked to teach, you will receive 50% off a private scar care session with me.


Scar Coaching Sessions

After a long pause, I’m opening my calendar again for 1:1 scar care coaching. Offered online, tenderly, and with room for both wildness and rest. These aren’t medical sessions. They’re sacred lessons in listening.

How does your scar speak? What does your body ask for in return? What new aliveness is waiting at the edge of sensation?

These hour long offerings are open to all bodies and all scar histories: chest, bottom, internal, traumatic, surgical, or otherwise. You can arrive with your scars on or off camera. You can arrive with a caregiver, or alone. You can come to talk, to learn, to track sensation, or to relearn how to touch yourself.

We work somatically through visualization, fascia education, guided massage, and the building of ritual practices. Some people come for a one-time appointment. Others work with me across three stages:

Pre-op preparation →
Post-op (Month 2) →
Later stage (Month 6 to many years after)

Scar care isn’t a single moment. It’s a long arc of reconnection.

Especially in the first three years after surgery, tending to scar tissue can profoundly impact your breath, mobility, pleasure, and sense of self.

These sessions are 130$ (325$ for 3 sessions) in English, and camera-optional.

The work I offer is not medical advice, but I believe it should be free knowledge. I offer it with love, rigor, and reverence. If this speaks to you or someone in your circle, I’d be honored to share the space.

Bookings now available after mid-October.
(sessions fill quickly: please book in advance)


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