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Somatic Gendering is now Queerly Fluid

I'm composting what doesn't serve and making space for new blooms. So I'm kicking this process off with a fresh name before plunging into the branding and coming out with a spanking new website later this Summer. If you're curious about the why and wherewithal of this choice, check out this video. In short, I wanted the name to be as expansive as the care I offer. You'll find my social pages and handles have changed and the visuals will with time.

Somatic Gendering Self-Paced Course

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Don't forget to sign up for this digital course: you'll have access forever so you can come back to it later. I'm going to be launching it later this year at 175$ so jump in there now. This is your gift for being here on this list with me <3

Whether you complete the course or not, please share your feedback! What I love about digital courses is that they are living and able to remain in motion to stay aligned with those they seek to serve.

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What I've Been Up To

I've had SO many doors closing and chapters turning in the past year that my head is spinning. Opportunities to grieve and release, to embrace a slower pace and more spaciousness, to leave breathes of silence instead of filling it. It's SO hard for me to just be with the vastness and not fill it up -- but I know this is part of the work in care I'm doing for me! Holding the unknown with and for others is a skillset I've long been honing, but doing that for myself: well, I've had some catching up to do. So, here I am learning to embrace the wobbles.

Also, I've managed to move past my fears of showing up on camera!! This has been a purposeful endeavour over the past two years. Some of you might be bouncing around IG and see me chattering away. I'm slowly making my way elsewhere though, wanting to extricate myself from the metaverse. I've begun peeking into platforms where I can offer visuals for the entire censorship range of my work: some of you have caught ahold of these adventures! More to come.

I've just returned from a week long Mantak Chia training on Taoist Sexual Alchemy in Madrid. Though I absolutely do not recommend him as teacher nor guide, there is beautiful depth in much of the Taoist/Daoist teachings and offerings he shared that also bridge with Traditional Chinese Medicine as well as Eastern and Indigenous medicinal knowledge. I'm fucking excited about weaving these understandings into my work with ya'll and look forward to the subsequent emergents we'll find together. It was a wild ride : I've shared just a bit of my thoughts (*cough* rant) over here if you want to poke your nose into some of my gooey activation. Hello human messiness.

What I've Been Reading

This Winter I plowed through a backlog of books and here are my top favourites in order of preference:

• ​Hospicing Modernity: Facing Humanity’s Wrongs and the Implications for Social Activism by Vanessa Machado De Oliveira
• ​Written by the Body: Gender Expansiveness and Indigenous Non-Cis Masculinities by Lisa Tatonetti
• ​The Flowering Wand: Rewilding the Sacred Masculine by Sophie Strand
• ​The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture by Gabor & Daniel Maté
• Honourable mention for those wanting to bob around in the depths of post queer theory: Touching Feeling: Affect, Pedagogy, Performativity by Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick and Adam Frank

What's Up Next

Because of all the projects I managed to close out this past Winter, I've created more space for client appointments and have been able to turn off my waitlist because I got all caught up with ya'll. I'm over the moon excited to turn more of my care and attention towards genderqueer erotic embodiment and pleasurable post-surgical scar care. If you've been waiting for spaciousness: now's the time to hop in before it fills up again. Book a free call or session here​

It's been a blast to have more of you coming in for solo play coaching both online and in-person. Especially those wanting to engage with their full gendering spectrum. Creative as fuck ya'll are -- it's glorious. One thing that keeps coming up again and again is that sex toys are too damned expensive. Some of my clients have to budget quite carefully to make such purchases! So, I'm starting to pull together some ideas for a Sex Toy Solidarity drive and Dildo Donations. Still in the percolating stages, but I'm thinking about how many people over the years have asked me what to do with toys they no longer use, or that never really "hit the spot", or were gifted to them but aren't of interest. If you're interested in ruminating on ideas for this project or being of assistance, please hit me up.

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Sharing and wishing you lots of warm Spring vibes,

"Play with the ambivalence and dynamic force of meaning."

- Vanessa Machado de Oliveira

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